November 19, 2013
A few weekends ago I was sick with a bad cold. The weekend was luckily not an over-scheduled one, and I was able to pretty much stay at home and take care of myself. To keep myself occupied, after doing the necessary household chores, I decided to create ~ my favorite way to chill. I made wind chimes out of supplies that I had on hand ~ and truly enjoyed the process. (I’ll do another post about what that actual process was… because that isn’t the point of my writing today.)
At the end of this slow and quiet weekend, although I still wasn’t feeling 100%, I did have a feeling of calm about me that I don’t always have on a Sunday evening. I started thinking of all the things I didn’t “do” – and had the thought “I didn’t get very much done on my ‘to do’ list” but was okay with it because I knew I needed to rest.
My next conscious thought was “what if when we wake up in the morning, instead of creating a mental ‘to do’ list, we instead created a ‘to be’ list?” How do I want to BE today? I want to be love, I want to be kind, I want to be generous, understanding, compassionate, forgiving… and the list could go on. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to make a conscious choice to BE one or two of these amazing traits for the day?
The “to do” list will never go away – and quite frankly we will always be adding to it.
So, my new morning wake up thoughts routine is going to be:
– Offer gratitude (my favorite greeting for the new day is “hello worldie” from Patti Digh’s “Life is a Verb”)
– Think of one or two ways I want to BE that day
During the day, I try to remember my intentions and re-align my thoughts if necessary. I know many (many) days I won’t meet the standards I will mentally set for myself ~ but I promise myself that I will never stop trying.
After all ~ we are human”BE”ings, not human”DO”ings.
(p.s. After writing this, but before posting, my to BE method was tested big time. A super frustrating experience occurred where my decision to BE calm, understanding, and peaceful all were tested repeatedly. I don’t want to embarrass the person behind this frustration, but believe me when I tell you that it took repeated reminders from my best self to stay calm, remember I love this person, and keep showing up with peace. When the situation was finally resolved, we were that much closer because I assisted without judgment, and I also felt awesome because I acted from my best self the entire time.)